A Life Well-Lived

By Ron Tatro, Vice President at Elder Law of Michigan

We have all found ourselves in this time of confusion, fear, and uncertainty. This environment has left us fearful, searching for hope and answers, and sometimes depressed. More than 6,000 fellow Michiganians have lost their lives. We have all been directly or indirectly impacted by these losses.

In the last weekend of June, my friend Tom passed away. We first met more than fifty years ago. In that half-century, he was a fellow professional, business partner, mentor, and most importantly, my friend. Along with our life partners, we passed through the years together sharing professional achievements, raising our families, and moving into retirement.

Upon reflection, while many things have changed during that time, some things did not. Tom viewed the world through the eyes of an artist and master craftsman. He saw the world and the people in it with a sharp and discerning view. He never failed to render an opinion on a given situation. However, he was a man filled with love and respect for his family, community, and friends. He impacted everyone who knew him.

I have wondered how other “Toms” have graced our lives. I would suggest that in their memory we consider these points.

  • Take a quiet moment to reflect on their lives and contributions. If moved spiritually offer a blessing in their name.
  • Think of all the good things they did, select one or more positive examples, and share those with others. Be quick to forgive for those moments or times when they were less than perfect.
  • Pay it forward. The best gift is one that is unexpected. Do it in their memory!

I was not with Tom when he passed. I am guessing that he may have gone quietly into the night at peace with his world. While my heart is heavy with sorrow, I feel blessed that we had more than fifty years of friendship together. My life is richer for having had him in it. Until the next time.  

Ron Tatro is the Vice President at Elder Law of Michigan and has been a member of the Elder Law of Michigan team since January 2007. As Vice President at Elder Law of Michigan, Ron provides support services and executive direction to all aspects of Elder Law of Michigan’s programs.